Why is Shame important?
Do you know about ‘Daring Greatly : How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead’? It was written by Brene Brown.
If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend that you see this video.
[TED] Brene Brown: The power of vulnerability
This is a video about shame that I am interested in these days.
Let’s talk about Brene Brown’s research.
She first started to research about ‘Connection’. Why? If you studied social welfare for 10 years, We all comes down to ‘Connection’ in the end.
If people are asked about ‘Connection’, what people said? People talk about ‘Disconnection’. Shame is a fear of disconnection. Here comes shame.
Brene Brown studied about shame for 6 years. She divide people into two classes. There are the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging and the people who really struggle for it. They believe they’re worthy. It is a key point. But It is very hard for me. So I’m interested in ‘Shame’. You know why?
She named people who believe they’re worthy as ‘Whole-hearted’. She find out about the difference deeply. The research is going on, so.
But Vulnerability and Shame is more important than I thought. Vulnerability is a key point for personal relationships. Also, the company is where people gather. Vulnerability can change one’s life forever. Likewise, vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change. So it is popular.
Do you know Covert narcissism?
These people look very kind and humble. But in inner side, they are no different from Overt narcissism that we usually call Narcissism. But they are very shy. Why? Covert narcissism is deeply related with ‘Shame’. These days, I think my problem is related with covert narcissism. Here comes shame. I feel something connected.
Get back to Brene Brown. She find out relationship between shame and guilty. Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior. Shame is “I am bad.” Guilt is “I did something bad.“
Erikson‘s Stages of Development.
Do you know where these concepts are used? It’s a Erikson‘s Stages of Development.
- In early childhood(1-3 years), There are conflict between ‘Autonomy’ and ‘Shame’.
- In play age(3-6 years), There are conflict between ‘Initiative’ and ‘Guilt’.
If you don’t develop in during this each time, you will experiences these problems.
Here was my research.
I will be more fully thinking.
- I’m determined to change me. I hope you walking down your path.
- I expect you to do your best. 🙂